Tuesday, August 31, 2010

Image Dump

Stanislav Odyagailo

Here we are at the end of another month and for some the end of another summer. For me the demarcations of the calendar usually means a link dump of those topics I did not get to during the past 30ish days or a image dump of pictures and art I have archived but not placed with any text. Today is one of those visual days. I will offer explainations where I am able. The first image above is simply a bizarre remnant of my long gone penguin days and, of course, an ode to the end of summer.

I just never found the words to go with this image but I do suggest not falling asleep in this situation.

This comes from a file called 'bizarre chewing gum sculptures' I think that says it all.

Here we have one of those color enhanced photos from NASA, but whenever I see this one I am reminded of Nanci Griffith singing Once in a Very Blue Moon.

Its not just anyone who can wear a bow tie.

Well this would be me during the recent Boyz Poker Outing in Las Vegas, taken by Mike at the new Chihuly gallery in the also new City Center.

and finally, well I just don't know . . . Emu Date Night?

Sunday, August 29, 2010

Tim's Dilemma

Actually the dilemma depicted above is not mine, well not exactly depending on the interpretation in the eye of the bolder beholder. Whilst surfin' about for some images of dilemma for another article, I happened upon this image, titled Tim's Dilemma. If you are intrigued, I suggest a larger version, as they say the devil is in the details. The image comes from the website of the Modernism gallery here in San Francisco, I will be there next week for a look see. The artist of Tim's Dilemma is Arsen Roje. A bit more surfin' found his exhibit titled Body Parts, which could better have been called hands or better yet fingers. The link is to a short video tour of that installation, a truly different sort of digital experience.

The Modernism gallery has been around for over thirty years and thinking back I remember seeing a Robert Crumb show there in the 90s.
Robert Crumb - Vulnerable Goddess (1990)

Michael Dweck (2002)

Mark Stock (1993)

Rowland Scherman

Me thinks I shall do a bit more pondering on the nature of my current dilemma, whatever that might be.

Ketchup Hot Dog Clip Art

Finally a hot dog clip art picture with ketchup! I don't like mustard or relish so all of the other images up until this point have kind of made gag. Ketchup is my condiment of choice, especially on hot dogs.

When I was a kid I used to put ketchup on everything, to the point where my parents would get angry because I was wasting it, and they said I was taking in too much sugar and salt from the ketchup. Nowadays I limit the amount I eat of course, but try getting an 8 year old kid with a sweet tooth to do that!!

Saturday, August 28, 2010

Guess the word

Another word in pictures. 
In my (admittedly a bit strange) mind, all of these images illustrate aspects of a particular word. I wonder if anyone else can guess what it is?

Friday, August 27, 2010

Friends and Fellow Travelers

A friend, an olde friend sent me this image and said that it reminded him of me. Somewhere in storage or in another friend's home there is a white Balinese mask very similar to that image. We were in the workshop/gallery of a gifted mask-maker in Ubud, Bali. Mask were being tried on, laughter was awash but respect was being shown to a true craftsman. I put on the white mask in a back hallway and leaned out into the main room just my head emmasked. For a moment there was complete silence and then everyone came towards me, I had evidently found my one true mask. I need to get it out again, wonder where it rests?

But today's post is not about me or images of me. Today's post is about friends and how I speak of friends in this blog. Long time readers know that I tend to begin a tale with -- "a friend told me the other day" or I write about friends as examples of all things good and not so. Friends who make me happy and those that make me sad or baffle me are blog fodder. There are even a couple of very close friends I never write about either because they are just too private and I don't want to intrude or I have ever so lightly referenced them in the past and received less than warm returns via critique.

Recently a post got three responses that basically said -- "Did you mean me?"

So new rule. In the future when I use the term friend I will send said friend an email disclosing their appearance, no matter how veiled, in this here blog. No email, it ain't you.

Now I must go, there are some towering grey clouds hanging low over San Francisco Bay. The sun has been transformed into a viewable disk as it sinks into the greyness. I am going to sit and watch as light and dark struggle. Which I wonder shall prevail?

The Songs Of John Hughes

Since I can't rip any CD's at the moment it's the ideal time to re-introduce the covers compilations. Here we have covers of songs used in the films of John Hughes.

Amy Grant - Back In Baby's Arms (Patsy Cline).mp3
Ben Lee & Spitoon - If You Were Here (The Thompson Twins).mp3
Black Francis - Wheels (The Flying Burrito Brothers).mp3
Brave Combo - Tubular Jugs (Mike Oldfield).m4a
Brave Combo - Tubular Jugs (Mike Oldfield).mp3
Coldplay - Have Yourself A Merry Little Christmas (Judy Garland).
Collide - Haunted When The Minutes Drag (Love & Rockets).mp3
Dee Dee Ramone - Twist And Shout (Top Notes).mp3
English League - Weird Science (Oingo Boingo).mp3
Greg Laswell - This Womans Work (Kate Bush).mp3
Idlewild - Don't You Forget About Me (Simple Minds).mp3
Josh Rouse - Please Please Please Let Me Get What I Want (The Smi
Lunachicks - More Than A Feeling (Boston).mp3
Motorpsycho - Six Days On The Road (Dave Dudley).mp3
Nada Surf - If You Leave (OMD).mp3
Simple Minds - Bring On The Dancing Horses (Bunnymen).mp3
Terry Edwards - The Hardest Walk (Jesus & Marychain).mp3
The E Types - Laugh Laugh (Beau Brummels).mp3
The National - Pretty In Pink (Psychedelic Furs).mp3
The Puppini Sisters - Mr. Sandman (The Chordettes).mp3
The Rezillos - Land Of A Thousand Dances (Chris Kenner)

Isn't She....

Wednesday, August 25, 2010

Conversation with God

For those younger or straighter or way over there on the right, above is a Terry Gilliam (Monty Python) image of the supreme being. Didn't want to get anyone confused early on today. You should select your own imagery for the personage of god or God for today's discussion.

Back at the end of June, I did a link dump and one of the items I tossed out was a Conversation with God. Some of you read it, many did not. The article contains an interesting and perhaps off-beat reflection on who or what the deity is or might be. I do recommend the article, I can wait here if you would like to read it now.

No really, I can wait.

O.K. maybe later, shall we continue. I would like to discuss just one aspect of the thesis put forward in the Conversation with God. This comes about mid-way in the conversation, when the human ask about prophets:

[man] ‘OK, so what about our more famous "prophets"; Jesus of Nazareth, Moses, Mohammed…’

[god] ‘hmmm… sadly misguided I’m afraid.  I am not here to act as a safety net or ethical dictator for evolving species. It is true that anyone capable of communicating with their own cells will dimly perceive a connection to me – and all other objects in this universe - through the quantum foam, but interpreting that vision as representing something supernatural and requiring obeisance is somewhat wide of the mark.  And their followers are all a bit too obsessive and religious for my liking. It's no fun being worshipped once you stop being an adolescent teenager. Having said that, it's not at all unusual for developing species to go through that phase. Until they begin to grasp how much they too can shape their small corner of the universe, they are in understandable awe of an individual dimly but correctly perceived to be responsible for the creation of the whole of that universe. Eventually, if they are to have any hope of attaining level two, they must grow out of it and begin to accept their own power and potential. It's very akin to a child’s relationship with its parents. The awe and worship must disappear before the child can become an adult. Respect is not so bad as long as it's not overdone. And I certainly respect all those species who make it that far. It’s a hard slog. I know. I've been there.’

I know a couple of references in there, like 'level two', require a second reading of the article but what impressed me most was not the rather simply idea that religions as we know them are immature expressions of basic human thought but more importantly that we have available to us now the resources to move beyond our philosophical adolescence. The "quantum foam" as he calls it. We or rather the religious believers of our species simply put the wrong labels on all of this. These labels have the singular quality of diminishing the potential of the human race. Baseball players point to the sky god when they cross home plate, but not when they strike out. Every success in life is attributed to god's will or his mercy but failure -- well that's our fault for not seeing his divine plan.

It, the big It, the great answer, what it really is all about doesn't come down to any "One Thing." However, recognizing who we are and not fobbing our potential off on the divine kindness of some mythical entity would be a good place to start.

Tuesday, August 24, 2010

Still No New Posts!!!

CD Writer finally packed in, so serious lack of ripping recently, will have a new one by the weekend so normal service should be resumed.

Choice and Commitment

I've been having a lot of Dreams lately - they seem so real that I wake up in a daze.

The other night I had this Dream that I was getting married and I was trying to do this dance routine, like a show, and I wasn't marrying My Man.  The Dream was just on me, I did not see the groom in the Dream - and yet I had such a strong feeling of sadness that My Man wasn't the groom.  In the Dream I just wanted to be slow dancing with My Man.  When I woke up, I was so relieved to see that it was a Dream and that My Man was sleeping next to me.  Phew!!!

This morning I had another strange Dream that was very confusing.  I had a very restless night, I was up and down all night, feeling very sick in the stomach.  When I finally did get to sleep I had this Dream that I was going to ring up sick and in the Dream I couldn't work out who I had to call.  I couldn't work out if I was at school, I thought I was in Year 7 and that I had to ring a Teacher, then I had this fear in my stomach that I was in Year 12 and better start studying for the HSC, and then I realised I was working and I couldn't work out where I worked and who was my boss that I needed to call.  No wonder I have had a headache today.

I always love the words of wisdom and quotes that I receive every morning and yesterday I received these quotes
- “Take the world as it is, not as it ought to be." – German Proverb –
- "Instead of trying to change the world into what it ought to be, accept it as it is, instead of trying to change who you are into who you ought to be, accept yourself as you are. Then you will realise that the parts of your life and yourself that you had been trying to change into what they ought to be were only the parts of yourself that you had not yet loved the way you ought to love.  The UNIVERSE"

These quotes allow me the freedom to be okay with not feeling 120%.  Today in feeling at about 60%, I allowed myself the opportunity for Self-Care.  I gave my Self permission to have a sick day off work and rang my Boss.  I take the Commitment of my work seriously and yet when it comes to Choice and Commitment for today, I choose to Honour my Self.  I enjoyed the opportunity to crawl back into bed and slept for a few hours.  I feel so much better after sleeping.

And then I had another Dream.  My Soul is definitely sending me messages.  I had a Dream that My Man and I had a disagreement and then he left and then I called him only to find that he didn't pick up the phone, he must have bumped the phone and so I could just hear him in the background.  In the background he was buying an airline ticket and I didn't know where he was going and he couldn't hear me, and I was yelling out and he still couldn't hear me.  I was also relieved to wake up from that Dream by My Man ringing me to see how I was feeling.

I'm still feeling less than 100% and I'm okay to just be real with how I am today.  I am also learning to be in relationship and in love in the everyday and in the realness.  We had such a fantastic day on our engagement and I am a woman in love and I can also say that this is a Choice and Commitment that I choose to Honour, even on the days when we are both feeling less than 100%.

I have baggage from my Past, given that I have been married before and engaged another time.  I have had almost had a fear of whether I could take this big step again.  And yet when I have uneasy feelings of my Past, I see an image of boxes that are all packed up and I remind myself that I can leave the boxes closed.

This is my chance to Design my Life.  And I am glad that My Man is the one in my life, the one in my everyday.  I'm glad that my recent Dreams are not Dreams come true - if anything they made me feel terrible at the prospect of not having my Man in my life.

It was great when My Man got home from work.  It was great to go for a walk outside together.  I love being outside.  This is my medicine.  I love walking out by the beach and we are delighted to see the moon over the ocean - what a beautiful sight - the sky is a pinky blue colour.  At this time I wished I had my camera to capture the beauty.  We take a moment and capture the beauty in our mind's eye.  By the time we get home, the sun has set and we look back and see the glow of the full moon.  I just love being outside.

Another positive part of my evening was also running to an old friend from school - he is now married and due to have his first child any day now.  One of my favourite parts of living where we do, is running into people around the local Community.  I love being in Connection and Conversations.

As I reflect on today I wonder what Archetypes naturally came into my world today.  I definitely felt my Sage this morning when I made the decision regarding Self-Care.   I love having my Sage as a Resource.

My Sage activated my Caregiver Archetype - choosing to give Care to my Self.

I also reflect on the questions - What has changed?  What I am consciously applying in my day?  I feel that I am bringing myself back to the Present moment and out of my mind by consciously bringing in the image of my Yellow Heart.  If I am triggered to go into my Past, I am able to bring in the image of boxes that are packed up and this brings me back to the Present moment, rather than wasting mental or emotional energy on my Past.  I am also able to be Present and Real to what is, in my own feelings and in my relationship.  This is allowing me the opportunity to sit still in the moment.

I am happy to love and be loved at a deep level - to feel the bond at a deep level.  In my Heart, I have such a strong sense that there is nowhere else I would rather be - I have a sense of being at Home with My Man.  And it is also a Choice and Commitment that I make on a daily basis, in the sunshine, in the rain, on cloudy days, when flowers are blooming.  My Mum and Dad have been married 42 years and I have such great role models of Marriage and Commitment.  I am Grateful for my Man and I am very glad that we can both be real.  I especially love holding hands with My Man - it is the small things that are the BIG things.

Today I am Grateful to be able to go out walking with my Man, I am Grateful for extra sleep, I am Grateful for peppermint tea, I am Grateful for My Man making me dinner, I am Grateful to enjoy the beautiful sight of the full moon.  I am very Grateful that my Dad came home from hospital.  And I am Grateful that I can sit in the Space of not feeling 100% Fantastic.   And I am Grateful that I am learning to hold the Paradox of Dark and Light.

Monday, August 23, 2010

Twenty-Six Hummers Humming

One of my harshest blog critics really enjoyed my last hummingbird post, so I felt justified in writing one more, if anything new happened. Well, here it is. Last evening just before dusk, when the major swarming goes on, I was sure there were more than seventeen hummers at the feeder (17 being the old record). Now they are difficult to count even when ten of them sit sipping on the nectar dispenser. But with a little spacial geometry I was fairly confident of a minimum count of twenty-one. I even called my friends the homeowners to boast of my new record bird count.

Shortly after the call, I was sure even more birdlets had come in but how to tell, my quantitative needs were beginning to overwhelm my qualitative delight at being three feet from this quiver of hummers. Then it struck me, there used to be two feeders hanging on the deck, so I could install a second hook the next day and maybe tomorrow night.... wait! and even better idea!!

I filled the second feeder, I had the sugary brew ready for a post-dusk refill anyway. Then I just slide the screen door half way open and stuck my hand and arm out with the feeder in my palm. It took about ten seconds for the first hungry hummer to check it out, once he landed on the far side of the feeder, the side away from the big white tree it was hanging on, the hummer gates opened and soon I had five, then six, the seven birds feeding from the feeder in the palm of my hand.

With both feeders having static birds and one fluttering queue for each I was able to count first twenty then twenty-two and finally twenty-six verified hummingbirds at one time. With the math done, I was able to simply wonder at the tiny birds landing nearly in my hand. It was then that one of them decided that feeding slots eight, nine and ten (where my arm connected to the wrist bone), well those feeding stations were open too. He landed on my thumb and hopped up to the feeder perch. Again, hummer see hummer do. One than more would land on parts of my wrist and hand and make their way to the perch.

Eventually one of the hummers landed on my forearm and sat there staring up at the big white tree. I wonder what was going through her bird brain? I know what was going through mine -- avian ecstasy.

Sunday, August 22, 2010

Clipart of a Mustard Hot Dog With Green and Yellow Relish

This hot dog clip art pic is a little different from last time's mustard hot dog image because this one also has 2 types of relish. That is, both green relish and yellow relish. I'm not really a fan of any of those condiments, but I suppose if I had to choose one I'd take the yellow relish.

Clipart of a mustard hot dog with 2 kinds of relish

Saturday, August 21, 2010


I have a couple of issues today. First of all -- catastrophizing is not a word. I am normally not against adverbializing, gerunding, adjectivization, participlization, izing, ising and generally expanding the language. But some of it just comes out as lazy language. Prime example: "Are you disrespecting me?"

No, I am not! I am, however, showing disrespect towards your behavior because you have not made the effort to learn how to speak. Back to catastrophizing, according to some lame brain academics. Catastrophizing is an irrational thought wherein we believe something is far worse than it actually is. This is apparently treatable and therefore can be billed to your HMO.

Now I don't want to be a cynic here, nor do I want to dismiss what for some individuals might be a disrupting influence in their life. Mental health issues comes in a wide variety of shapes, forms, sizes and phobias; just about as many as there are mental beings walking the planet. Here is my real issue.

You might have heard the term: catastrophizing in the last month or so, as it relates to U.S. combat troops in Iraq and Afghanistan. It seems that some of our soldiers are having thoughts that they are really in danger and that nothing good will come of their service in these foreign lands. Or what some mental health professionals would label -- rational thinking.

But, as far as the military is concerned, not correct thinking. These soldiers apparently do not have their heads on straight, so the U.S. Department of Defense has turned to psychology to combat this less than optimal mindset of its minions. The U.S. Army is planning to require that all 1.1 million of its soldiers take intensive training in positive psychology and emotional resiliency. Or what psychology professionals call Positive Psychology.

You should know that Positive Psychology is very controversial within the world of professional psychology. In particular, the idea that clearly dangerous or negative life situations should somehow be given a positive spin is viewed as the equivalent of brainwashing by some highly respected mental health professionals; particularly when such wisdom is dispenses along with psychiatric medication as is apparently the case for over one in six serving members of the U.S. Army.

Adding flavor to this mish-mash of military policy, the army has suggested that they have "40,000 teachers" able to train or retrain their 1.1 million soldiers. Those teachers would be the drill sergeants, always known for taking a deep interest in their students and imbuing them with a positive outlook on life and their future prospects. I am reminded of Jerry Della Femina's book -- From Those Wonderful Folks Who Gave You Pearl Harbor.

To read the full article on this bit of military brilliance, go here. And remember, it is always darkest before the dawn, there is always a light at the end of the tunnel and catastrophizing circumstances may cause carbuncles, cankers, consumption and constipation; however, it is often also a sign of sanity and therefore something apparently to be avoided.

Thursday, August 19, 2010

Beautiful Trees #6

The strange and beautiful Nikau palm is the southernmost growing of all the palms, and is endemic to New Zealand.  I love its strong shape and its dense, angular top. 

The palm is intrinsically of great appeal to artists, both for its shape and its associations, and appears in the works of many New Zealand painters.  This is by Jenny Bennett:

The tree grows to heights of 10 metres. The single stem (it's very rare for there to be more than one, or for there to be side branches) is marked with rings left by the marks of leaves which have fallen.
The leaves are about 1 to 3 metres long, and were used by the Māori in building. The top of the stem is fleshy and juicy and was (is?) sometimes eaten.

Here is another one of Jenny's paintings: (see www.jennybennett.com)

This is a different interpretation - by Sandi O'Neill (see www.newzealand-artist.co.nz)

To me the Nikau is a strong symbol of home.  Beautiful New Zealand, with its beaches, its forests, its magnetic pull when I'm away. Summer, sea, sand..... my idea of happiness

My Life As A Perch

The hummers are now going through a full feeder (3 cups of water, 1 1/2 of sugar) every day, so this morning I was out filling up the sugary snack when one of the little fellows buzzed me. Now in the past I have had them drink out of the 4 cup glass container while I was pouring and many times I have gotten a chirpy lecture while I did the refill, but today was different. While I was up on the one-step to rehang the feeder, one brave bird came in to have a taste even before I had it rehung. He clearly emboldened the others because very quickly with my head six inches from the feeder there were six, then ten, then thirteen hummers all buzzing and slurping.

I figured they could care less about me, so I stayed in place and soon they were whirling around my head completely ignoring me. Not sure if you can imagine what that many buzzing wings sounds like but it is quite invigorating. For a few moments one of the queued hummers was so close to my ear that I was ever so lightly brushed by each rapid flap of her wings.

I was engrossed, fascinated and honored to be so close to the critters and then it happened. With a full baker dozen volleying for a place at the trough, there were always waiters. I have seen as many as eight settled on the rail drinking but there just isn't any more room. Generally four to six are actually drinking and another 3 or 4 are buzzing about waiting for a slot of open up. Sort of like the four o'clock change planes scramble at O'Hara.

Well there was one hummer hovering just at my right temple when he apparently decided he needed a rest but didn't want to retreat to the nearest pine tree. So he landed on the eyepiece of my glasses. A magical moment if there ever was one and he made sure I would be forever honored by his presence when he squirted some hummer guano on my shoulder as he flew off.

[Addendum]: I won't write another entire blog post on the hummers that would set off my more serious minded readers but I must add that this morning I was up around dawn to feed a demanding cat. I noticed that the hummers were out in full force and that the early morning sunlight shown directly on the nectar dispenser which meant in additional to just the sheer pleasure of watching and hearing the hummers, now there was an added light show as their wings picked up the early morning sunlight. I was watching fascinated when suddenly they exploded like a star going nova, the cat had jumped up on the deck. The entire charm of hummers had zipped up to a height of about 15 feet, forming a shell of birdlets. It took about a half a moment, for them to ID the cat as belonging and not a threat then they were back at the feeder. Interesting how "we" adapt, amazing what we take for granted.

Wednesday, August 18, 2010

Elbow - Asleep In The Back (CD1)

01 - Asleep In The Back
02 - Coming Second
03 - Stumble


Lostprophets - A Town Called Hypocrisy (CD1)

01 - A Town Called Hypocrisy
02 - Love


Cracker - Low

01 - Low
02 - I Ride My Bike
03 - Sunday Train
04 - Whole Lotta Trouble


I Love Coaching

Tonight I met with one of my Coaching Clients.  I Love Coaching.  I LOVE COACHING. 

I have been at work all day, working my Monday to Wednesday job, my job outside of Coaching.  I enjoy talking to the Customers and I especially enjoy Connection and Conversations with Friends at work - and I am Grateful for my job - and the work is interesting - yet this is not my Lifework.

Once I get to my Coaching Space, I feel comfortable and Peaceful and Happy.  I enjoy setting up my room.  I feel at Home in my room.  I sometimes wish I had a room at my Home and yet I am Grateful to be part of a Community of Healers and definitely feel in the right place and Space.  

I love my Butterfly Scarf which reminds me of the Journey of Life and the Coaching Opportunity to support Client's on their Journey.  I also love lighting my candles - with the Light of my candles I feel ready - I also feel that the candles invite Spirit into my Sacred Space.  On the table I have a tealight candle holder in the shape of a rock with the word 'Love'.  I love this candle as it also reminds me of the emphasis of my work - I love to work with my Coaching Clients for love of life and love of self.  For me it all comes down to LOVE - it is this simple.  I also love lighting my Yellow candle that is in the lotus flower candle holder - I love the symbol of the Lotus - the beautiful flower emerging from the mud.

I am Grateful for my Coaching Clients.  I am Honoured that Clients share their Journey with me.  I am Honoured to share this Space.  Holding and offering a Sacred Space is of upmost importance to me.  I am  SO Grateful for the Clients that I have welcomed into my Space, VERY Grateful that they have chosen me to be their Coach.

I feel very relaxed and natural sitting in the seat of the Coach.  It is true that you can never possibly know what a Client will bring as an Agenda for the Coaching Session - and I am  SO Grateful that I have been trained to Trust the Magic and the Mystery of the Process.  I am also Grateful that I have been trained in Counselling skills as I feel that this helps me offer the best support for my Clients.

Have I mentioned today that - I Love Coaching.

I look back over some of my notes that I emailed my very first Client from when I started my Business in May.  I feel Inspired when I read my Vision for my Coaching and my Values and Beliefs in relation to my Coaching, which Shine through when I read about Client Benefits, the Transformational Coaching Process and Shine Coaching - About Me.

Client Benefits
S - Self-Awareness, Self-Confidence, Self-Reliance, Self-Care, Success of Goals and Celebration of Wins
H - Happiness and Joy and a Sense of Gratitude
I - Inspiration - Feeling Energised and a sense of Purpose and Meaning
N - New Awareness and a Feeling of Newness, Hope and Excitement, A New Beginning, A New day
E - Empowered - Sense of working with what is within one’s own control and using one’s power to make positive choices

Transformational Coaching Process
S - Based on the Client’s Specific Agenda and Goals – with an opportunity for Self-Reflection and a focus on a Client’s Strengths and Resources
H - Holistic Coaching is about bringing about Balance and Authenticity in all Areas of Life, as well as attention to Physical, Mental, Emotional and Spiritual Aspects 
I - Intuition - Coaching is not about giving advice or direction, the Process involves assisting a Client to access their own answers and Insights
N - Next Steps – Each Session offers the opportunity to identify and commit to action steps for forward movement, with a space for people to be accountable to themselves
E Experiential – The Coaching Process allows space for sharing, and there are invitations for different exercises, questions, meditations and visualisations to assist a Client

•    SHINE: Excitement, brightness, glowing, brilliance, excellence, eyes lighting up, a feeling of basking in sunlight, reflecting light to others
•    As a Coach it is a Honour to work with people – As a Coach I see the light in people, their uniqueness, their greatness - so that they may SHINE
•    I have been working with people for the last 5 years in Training, Motivation and Performance Management and now with training in Counselling and Coaching, I have recently started my own Coaching Business where I am very passionate about working with people in the local community
•    The Coaching Process involves shining a light on areas in life that are both working and not working, shining a light on the Vision for the future and bringing obstacles into the light to help bring about change
•    My belief is that each day is a new day, that we are not defined or restricted by our past, but that with the rising of the sun there is the opportunity to begin again or take new steps towards our desired destination
•    My desire is that the Process of Coaching can help more people LOVE SELF and LOVE LIFE

I am Excited that I am living an Authentic life and most Excited that I have my own Coaching Business.  This is a dream come true.  For years and years and years I struggled with being in the wrong job and feeling very stressed trying to fit into jobs that were not right for me.  For years and years and years I was searching for my Lifework - although I have always known that I wanted to work with people.  When I was in my early twenties I started talking about studying Psychology and about 10 years ago I first heard about the role of a Life Coach and I knew this was the role for me.  And now I am finally living my dream.

I feel that I have a deep empathy for others due to my own life experience.  I especially know the feelings of doubt and being lost and lonely and sad and anxious and depressed and experiencing a lack of purpose.  I now know the feelings of peace, truth, love, a deep inner joy and happiness and a sense of Self-Love and a strong sense of Purpose.

I have a strong sense of my Life Purpose to Spread The Yellow and I love that I can offer a Space for Connection and Service to my Clients.  I Love Coaching.  Each and every day, in the Coaching Space and outside Coaching, I am on a Mission to Spread The Yellow.

Dear God, Please allow me to be of Service for the Greater Good.  I Trust in you.  I am ready to be of Service to more Clients.  Please help me live my Vision.  I appreciate my Gifts and my Uniqueness.  I am Blessed.  I am Grateful.  Amen - Oh and also God - MOST IMPORTANTLY Please look after my Dad and Mum - please keep them safe and strong and in good health.  Amen.

Tuesday, August 17, 2010

I Love Nature

Today I woke up to the view of a cockatoo sitting quietly on the corner of the roof of our unit block.  I am used to the loud screeching noise of the cockatoos, where there is one, there is many to be seen and heard.  And yet today this single cockatoo was just happily outside my window.  I felt that it was calling me outside for a Nature Walk.

I love being outside.  I Love Nature.  I've been enjoying some sleep ins in the last week, especially since I have been having restless nights and waking through the night.  And yet today it is an obvious choice to go outside for Exercise.

I head to one of my favourite places, Gunnamatta Park, a natural park by the ocean.

I just love the Trees.  Today I was thinking that I would love to be an artist to capture the beauty and energy of the Trees.  I would love to be an artist.  I love when my Soul Sisters from College showcase the art that they have created.  I love when I enjoy Art Therapy myself - just getting out my crayons and pencils, colours to capture my feelings and experience.  While to date, it does not appear that I am a natural artist when it comes to a canvas, I am open to Spirit to show me the type of art or colour that I can create, in my unique way.

I also know that I can be creative in other ways.  I would love to get back into photography.  I would love to take photos of the Trees, although I would love to be able to capture the energy on paper - hmmm... perhaps a photo and collage combination.  I also can't wait until I sew again (once I make some space in our home).  I also love writing.  For me it can be about the process and not the end result - and so I will also continue to get out my colours and play.

I love being at the Park.  It is quiet and peaceful.  I feel like I am in my Nature Goddess - Love and Connection with Nature.

I walk to one of my favourite Trees and I ask if there is any wisdom - it is interesting, I get a sense of the words "The answer is not in the Tree, it is in me" - perhaps just for today, as I do believe that there is much wisdom in Trees, in Nature.  I also feel that I do not have any questions - I do not have any questions where I am desperately seeking answers - I feel that I have so many answers - that my life is now simple.

There are two questions that have been entering my mind lately:
1. What would I do if this was my last day on Earth?
2. What would I do if money was not an issue?

Walking In Nature would be an answer to both of these questions.  I find myself loving being in Nature this morning and I hate when I see the time and know that I have to turn back and make my way home to get ready for work.  I could spend hours and hours in Nature, I Love Nature.  I would love to do Coaching out in the Park - perhaps Group Coaching - Sunrise and Sunset Sessions and Groups to Celebrate the Seasons.

If it was my last day on Earth and certainly if money was not an issue, I would spend a lot of my time outdoors, out in Nature, being out in Nature with my Loved ones.  I know that as My  Man and I look forward to having our own Family, spending time out in Nature is very important to me for our Lifestyle.

If it was my last day on Earth I would definitely spend all my time with My Man and My Family.  I am Grateful that this is the Priority in my life. When it comes down to it, Love is the most important to me.  And being in Nature.

If money was not an issue I certainly wouldn't be working my Monday to Wednesday job - this is just a job - this is not a Passion.  And yet I am Grateful for the people at work who are warm and friendly - I feel I am a part of the Community.  I am Grateful that I have found my Lifework in Coaching, I love Coaching.  I am open to the Universe sending me more Clients.  I Welcome new Clients.  I am ready for more Clients.

If money was not an issue, I would spend time in Nature, I would be Coaching, I would be spending time in Creation, I would be involved and raising money for children and communities living in poverty.  I would also be writing, I love writing.  I have some ideas for a book – I feel Inspired to write a book – I am following my Intuition.  I also feel guided to develop products that Inspire others to Spread The Yellow.

As I walk back home I love that I find two small branches of Yellow Wattle.  I love Wattle Trees.  I have a rule of not breaking off branches or flowers – however if I find a piece of Nature on the ground, I accept it as a Gift from the Universe.  I take one of the small branches of Yellow Wattle to work today – bringing the outdoors indoors – bringing Nature to my desk.

I love to get outdoors and have a walk during my Breaks.  Although I am in the suburbs and in an industrial area, I am Grateful for the small delights of Nature, the beauty in the Trees and plants that line the roads.  Driving home tonight I am also in awe of the beautiful sky – an amazing colour of deep pink and then turning to blue and Yellow.

Time for bed soon as I definitely want to get up and enjoy time in  Nature in the morning.  There is often the temptation to sleep a few more minutes and definitely press the snooze button one or two more times - and yet by having my Values and Vision Board posted on the wall in our bedroom, these bring my Spirit alive.

What To Do, What To Do?

If there's something I learned about in life, it's that you have to stand up to bullies and assholes every once in a while. Because let's face it -- an asshole is not going to be less of an asshole because you call him/her out on it. However, they definitely will become a bigger asshole if you let them get away with it. --- Dr. Pauly

As I have said way too many times, the general arena of standing up to socially inappropriate behavior is a lot easier for large males. My own personal philosophy on generalized assholery is to ignore it unless the perpetrator will take such silence as license to continue. The exchange can almost be scripted:

1) Begin with behavior and associated verbalization that meets the criteria for inappropriate conduct. 

2) Ignore it.

3) Reoccurrence of behavior.

"Hey dude, enough already."


"You're being a dick. You're annoying everyone, so just stop."

[insert key response here with or without escalating levels of bad behavior or attitude]

"No really --stop. This is not a debate. Stop now or go away, those really are your only options."

Part II: What do you do when someone you really care for goes off on a wild ass tangent with their life? I mean sure let them explore if the adventure is about growth or finding a new way or just outright fun. But what do you do when they return and are just so screwed up that no one can deal with them. 

I am not talking about drugs, alcohol or other addictive evils but more about a philosophy of life that just doesn't make sense to anyone who was there when they began their adventure. In my current particular case it involves a close friend who has late in life come to politics and now espouses certain views that while not completely out of the mainstream are being advocated with the fervor of a conspiracy nut.

Tolerance can only come with distance. The necessary distance means ending a relationship that I have valued for many years. I really don't want to do that but history does not always override current behavior.

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